In TEAM and LIFE, Orrin Woodward along with the founders of LIFE, have created a culture that rewards performance. So many people have become unwilling to strive for excellence. Today, it’s almost as important for people to get rewarded just for participating versus learning the truth that in life the performers get rewarded.
Some examples of Entitlement Thinking are:
1) I have witnessed kids playing sports and their parents not keeping score of the game. They want to reward every kid equally for just being on the team instead of rewarding the performers on the field. Where will these parents be when their children are in a real life scenario like a job interview and their child doesn’t get picked for the job, nor a reward for showing up. Teach the kids to strive for excellence now and they will later. Teach them the difference between succeeding and failing, let them feel that feeling of failure so they strive not to feel it again. I heard once, our job as adults if to raise responsible adults, not just happy children.
2) My wife Raylene, in her college classes witnessed young men and women asking their teachers how many points they would earn for just handing in their assignment. The scary thing is some professors would give marks for it. What message is that sending. Can you imagine saying to your boss “Hey can you pay me today just for showing up, regardless of my performance?”
Entitlement vs. Performing Behavior
- Entitlement behavior says; I’m here, I’m alive, we are all equal, reward me the same as the performer. They believe luck plays the most important part of being a winner.
- Performance behavior says; Can this be done? Is there someone who has done it that can help me? I will learn the skills needed to perform. I will practice over and over so NEVER lower the bar for me, if anything, raise the bar.
What I have learned in the LIFE community building industry is whenever I would reward a non-performer along with the performer, I usually lost both. When I rewarded the non-performer (cause of my feelings/emotions) they never would start Orrin Woodward’s P.D.C.A. (plan, do, check, adjust) process. They had no reason to strive to get better because I would reward their efforts no matter what. Now, because the performer saw me reward the non-performer he started to realize, why should I strive to become better if we both receive the same treatment. This behavior undermines the performer’s belief in themselves. I’m truly thankful today that my mentor/coach Claude Hamilton never done the work for me and never lowered the bar.
Claude has shown me through his example that a performer doesn’t need easy they just need possible!
Wayne Mac Namara