Have you ever wondered why some people just always seem upbeat and vibrant about life?
Have you ever said to yourself that this person just does not have my situations?
Have you thought that maybe they were born with the ability to always stay positive?
I did, for many years I thought something must be was wrong with people who always seemed happy and joyful about their situations, they must be pretending. In my younger years, I always looked at things in life as fun and on the bright side, but as I got older and the responsibilities started piling up, I could not find that something that I was passionate about and that could keep that positive outlook on life. I believed it was circumstances that made me have a positive or negative outlook; I was always looking for an outside event or person to make me happy.
I want to share with you that you can have a positive attitude. It is simply a choice. It may not always be easy, but the greatest minds in the world agree that it is not what happens to you that matters, but how you respond to what happens to you.
Orrin Woodward states in his book Resolved, I Resolve to have a positive attitude in an all situations. Failure in life is not from outside events, but the inside story a person tells himself.
Winners and non-winners receive the same stimulus, but choose to interpret and respond to the events differently.
As an old Native American Cherokee legend states:
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside of me.” he said to the boy “it is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is angry, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside of you and inside every other person too.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and them asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?” the old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Just like those two wolves, we have a negative voice and a positive voice in our heads, many times the negative one screams at you while the positive one is a faint whisper. The difference between a positive and a negative person is not determined by his circumstances, but by which voice he chooses to listen to.
William James said, “Man can change his life simply by changing his attitude.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “You are today where your thoughts have brought you. You will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.”
Norman Vincent Peales states, “Attitudes are more important than facts.”
In the 1970’s, The Andrew Carnegie foundation funded the largest research study ever done to determine what makes a successful individual. They surveyed more than 300,000 people in four different employment sectors. Their findings speak for themselves. It was found that:
1. 7% of your success is determined by the knowledge you have
2. 12% of our success is determined by the skill you possess
3. 81% was determined by your ATTITUDE
John Wooden taught these principles relating to attitude: never whine, never complain, or never make excuses.
Achievement orientated people will not associate for long with a negative voice, either their own or others.
Winners have an attitude that they will until, not accepting excuses from themselves.
The voice that a person chooses to listen to determines the fruit that he produces in life.
I encourage you to choose wisely.
Will you decide to consciously feed your positive voice while deliberately starving your negative one.
Zig Ziglar says: “Your attitude, not your aptitude, determines your altitude.”